Take Off your Sunglasses and Let in the Shade

It has been said that every action/thought is either about looking good or being right...

how does this resonate with me?

i cannot deny this to be true...and so the follow-up question...what does this mean to me?

While every action may be about looking good or being right, I think the goal should be to recognize this to be true and then understand what this means about choice....what it means about the follow-up thought or action.

Ultimately, we are forced to take ownership for our actions. Though some try hard to push it off on other people to avoid the cognitive dissonance they are likely to encounter by admiting that they are, in fact, responsible for their own actions.
It's easy to say things like, "You made me feel angry when you..." or "You did that and it made me do this..."...but in reality...what you did and what I did are two separate actions. Whether I choose to make what you did mean something about what I am going to do...is, a choice...and, mine to make...therefore, I am responsible.

And, how does anyone make you feel something? Aren't you the one that chooses your feelings? I think so...and, yes, someone elses actions can lead you into a certain emotion..but again, ultimately it's your choice to feel that way.

Which is really only a comment on humans...because what I'm saying isn't anything profound or insightful...but is, rather, a comment and a clarification about communication and relationships.

I feel that, as humans, we often fall short of taking responsibility for our actions and fully understanding our role in each experience. Though it does take "two to tango" it only takes one to make judgments and create/have feelings about experience.

I think it is one thing to have an experience...as this is an effortless process and is continually happening to each and every one of us...but it is another thing entirely to remove your ego from the experience and understand it as something outside of itself.
To have the consciousness that life is arbitrary...which implies that each experience of life is arbitrary...gives each experience a sense of limitlessness and 'clean-slatedness'....which i think is a reference point we should all acknowledge and strive for.

I'm suggesting that we take off the 'colored glasses' and the pre-emptive ideas about each other and experience and have an open door...

This 'already-always' way of listening and understanding is only limiting our experience...