Duality and the Manifested Destiny of my Utopia

So - hi....

I think I'm either extremely confused or extremely derranged...or, quite possibly the or should be omitted and replaced with and...

The topic of today is: Why give a fuck when you're only getting fucked?

Where did I miss the class on 'How to survive in reltionships with other human beings'?
or maybe the class was entitled 'How to fuck someone over and play games with them' - and so I intentionally missed it...because, well...quite simply it's obvious...I belong on the receiving end...

A lot of people want to take from you. Take, take, take, take, take...and I guess it's only natural that those who want to take seek those who give, give, give, give, give. There is always a process to blame, you see..
So, this bout of complaining that I am about to do - does, in some strange way - make sense to me. You can't have takers without givers or givers without takers, right? or wrong?
What I question is: Why does there exist that duality...the giver/taker? What is it that really allows relationships to function on that give/take foundation?

Is it that in our culture we are conditioned to function with the 'two sides to the cracker' view of the world? - what about the ridge? doesn't that serve some kind of purpose in the cracker...maybe it's only for decoration - but...that is a purpose!

What am I getting at here?

I don't want to be the giver anymore - or the taker for that matter...I want there to exist no power struggle between me and the man in my life - i want there to be shared responsibility and an equal exchange of....everything -- I thought I had that once but it turns out that he was just quiet about the struggle and I was too overshadowed to say anything about...anything...

Am I living within a utopic view here? Or can this be manifested into a reality?

Could someone let me know?